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Devotion,  Parenting

Finding Faith in My Unplanned Pregnancy

I starred at the electric blue stripe on the home pregnancy test. Positive. Definitely positive. Tears bolted down my cheeks.

What happened? We were careful. How could I be pregnant now? We just finished four years of my husband’s seminary training and planned to enter a 1-year residency program. Our bank account held on by a few dollars, we struggled to find even a tiny apartment we could afford in the next city, and we didn’t have health insurance.

On top of that, our two boys were already more than I felt like I could handle. My oldest lives with chronic medical issues and adding a baby? I felt like a pottery jar shattered on the ground. Unfixable.

I can’t do this. I wept and wept.

Unplanned pregnancy

People offered words of congrats. Believers said, “God will help you. Children are a blessing.”  But those words felt pithy and dishonest.

Were they the ones that would carry the baby in my already stretched body? Would they suffer the pain of another c-section and months of hazy sleeplessness?

Yes, I know God will help me, but it doesn’t mean the journey is easy.

I didn’t need candlelight sentiment. I needed illuminating compassion.

As I called out to the Lord, he led me to the story of Mary. She too was met with an unexpected pregnancy in the hands of a perfect-timing God. She wasn’t even married and her apparent unfaithfulness to her betrothed, Joseph, made her a disgrace.

She also came with little means. Not powerful, not political. Humble. Hard-working. Poor. And the timing of Jesus’ arrival couldn’t have felt more transient as she spent the last few days of pregnancy on the road—away from family and friends back in Nazareth. (Luke 2)

I figured if the God of the universe provided for the Savior in a dusty town in the boondocks outside of Jerusalem, then maybe I could trust Him to provide for us as well.

I figured if the God of the universe provided for the Savior in a dusty town in the boondocks outside of Jerusalem, then maybe I could trust Him to provide for us as well.

So I began to pray for faith like hers. Faith that says, “I am your maidservant.” While submitting with trust to His plan (Luke 1:38).

The flicker of faith slowly dissipated the bitterness and fear. Over time, God showed His provision. He led us to the right doctor in the right hospital and the way to cover the finances. He gave me more strength than I thought possible in healing and parenting three kids in a tiny apartment in a new city. It still wasn’t easy, but He indeed upheld me.

Four months later after my healthy baby girl joined our family, my mom died unexpectantly. And I spent hours holding my baby girl, praising God for His timing. He knew Karis (which means “grace” in Greek) would be the grace I would need as I continue to grieve my mom’s passing. I cherish the moments with my daughter as I imagine my mother cherished hers with me.

Are you facing unplanned circumstances? Job loss? Scary diagnosis? A broken relationship?

Whatever unplanned is happening in your life that makes you feel like a shattered jar, I hope you too can practice faith like Mary. God is not done. He is weaving our stories together for His glory.

Finding Faith in My Unplanned Pregnancy

2 Comments

  • Cammie Bell

    Yes!!! A lot of us say “God will provide” to those who are struggling, but it makes you wonder if it were them going through it, would they welcome the same response?

    • Seana

      Amen. I think it makes us feel uncomfortable to sit with pain, fear, doubt…or to sit alongside someone else as they journey through it. But I am learning that sometimes the best way to encourage someone in the Lord—is to just show up and offer compassion instead of answers tied with pretty bows. Life is messy. There is a time for bows and boxes…and a time for just letting the mess be and sitting with someone.

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